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Forced bussing

While I wasn't looking, it seems that a kiss in greeting has come back into vogue in the Anglophone world.

Already, the social kiss is fraught with delicate, uncertain, confusing, and controversial ritual and nuance. I am lost. I stumble about in an unlit lumber room of social expectations, painfully barking my shins every few feet. I look for guidance. There is an intimidating stack of books I must buy to guide me through this new and threatening realm of non-erotic kissing.

New Scientist on the subject:

A kiss on one cheek is acceptable according to Henry Russell, author of the recently published Etiquette: Henry's guide to modern manners. London fashion journalists Kim Izzo and Ceri Marsh opt for one on each cheek in The Fabulous Girl's Guide to Decorum, as does Thomas Blaikie in Blaikie's Guide to Modern Manners. "Four is just too theatrical," he writes.

Should men do it?

Blaikie is adamant: "Straight men don't kiss each other, at least not yet." Dylan Jones, editor of the British edition of men's magazine GQ, couldn't disagree more. When greeting male colleagues at a business lunch, "kiss twice, first on the left, then on the right cheek," he advises in Mr. Jones' Rules for the Modern Man.

Which cheek first?

Although Jones advises the left, Izzo and Marsh say blunders can be avoided if you "start by kissing the right cheek, briskly glide backward and move in for the left cheek kiss." Journalist Fleur Britten agrees, but in Debretts' Etiquette for Girls she cautions, "prepare to change direction at the last minute."

When should I not kiss?

"Avoid kissing people in wide-brimmed hats or if you are both wearing glasses," warns Britten. "As a general rule, don't kiss people you don't know."

How do I cope with a group?

"Group-kissing often seems a bit hollow after the tenth," Britten laments. "You can casually wave them all in or blow a kiss or two," she suggests.

Is air-kissing OK?

"It's lips to skin only," insist Izzo and Marsh. "Air-kissing appears squeamish and is insulting." Britten agrees: "No sound effects, air-kissing or saliva traces."

"As a general rule, don't kiss people you don't know." I hear the police take a dim view of that as well. Obviously the modern kisser must master the estimation of hat size at a moment's notice, be poised to change direction in an instant, be silent as an osculatory ninja, and prepared for the hollow feeling one has after kissing ten people without leaving saliva traces.

O brave new world!



meaning: take, grasp, counter for bundles

把持 == haji == (noun that can take する to act as a verb) grasp, hold, grip
把握 == haaku == (noun that can take する to act as a verb) grasp, catch, understanding

Left radical is one of the radical forms of 'hand'. Right radical is 'crouching figure' (as in 色), here used phonetically to express 'grasp'. Thus, 'grasp with the hand'. Henshall suggests as a mnemonic: 'Crouching figure grasps bundle in hand.'

Info from Taka Kanji Database
List of compounds including this character from Risu Dictionary

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