Already, the social kiss is fraught with delicate, uncertain, confusing, and controversial ritual and nuance. I am lost. I stumble about in an unlit lumber room of social expectations, painfully barking my shins every few feet. I look for guidance. There is an intimidating stack of books I must buy to guide me through this new and threatening realm of non-erotic kissing.
New Scientist on the subject:
Should men do it?
Blaikie is adamant: "Straight men don't kiss each other, at least not yet." Dylan Jones, editor of the British edition of men's magazine GQ, couldn't disagree more. When greeting male colleagues at a business lunch, "kiss twice, first on the left, then on the right cheek," he advises in Mr. Jones' Rules for the Modern Man.
Which cheek first?
Although Jones advises the left, Izzo and Marsh say blunders can be avoided if you "start by kissing the right cheek, briskly glide backward and move in for the left cheek kiss." Journalist Fleur Britten agrees, but in Debretts' Etiquette for Girls she cautions, "prepare to change direction at the last minute."
When should I not kiss?
"Avoid kissing people in wide-brimmed hats or if you are both wearing glasses," warns Britten. "As a general rule, don't kiss people you don't know."
How do I cope with a group?
"Group-kissing often seems a bit hollow after the tenth," Britten laments. "You can casually wave them all in or blow a kiss or two," she suggests.
Is air-kissing OK?
"It's lips to skin only," insist Izzo and Marsh. "Air-kissing appears squeamish and is insulting." Britten agrees: "No sound effects, air-kissing or saliva traces."
O brave new world!
meaning: take, grasp, counter for bundles
把握 == haaku == (noun that can take する to act as a verb) grasp, catch, understanding
Left radical is one of the radical forms of 'hand'. Right radical is 'crouching figure' (as in 色), here used phonetically to express 'grasp'. Thus, 'grasp with the hand'. Henshall suggests as a mnemonic: 'Crouching figure grasps bundle in hand.'